Been awhile..

[MrBond]

"I didn't find my last text to her as obsessive."

That's the problem.

"I just wish I could shake the anxiety I've been getting everyday."

That's why you come off as obsessive.

[Jeack]

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[Jeack]

"I didn't find my last text to her as obsessive."

That's the problem.

"I just wish I could shake the anxiety I've been getting everyday."

That's why you come off as obsessive.

What was obsessive about what I wrote? Now I would agree it was a passive aggressive text. And I guess the anxiety is coming from the reality that this M is done. We sign off on everything on Monday.

I would think its normal to try and figure out why the WAS did what they did to try to change things within myself for future R.

[MrBond]

"I would think its normal to try and figure out why the WAS did what they did to try to change things within myself for future R."

I get it. I really do. You want some kind of closure. She can't give it to you.

That's why you need to concentrate on yourself and your self-esteem.

[Jeack]

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That's why you need to concentrate on yourself and your self-esteem.

That I do know. Been hitting the gym 4 days a week and just signed up with z personal trainer.

One quick question. Thru say in dbing to treat the waw as a neighbor or friend but I remember you saying a few post back that all I did was let her know she could come back whenever. How to I handle if she does reach out. I kinda want to have a boundary that as long as she's with OM. There's no reason to talk. Thoughts?

[MrBond]

You don't tell a "neighbor" that their welcome to come back to live with you any time, right? You're jumping the gun a bit, but the thing is that you haven't given her any space in your conversations. As long as she feels that you will ALWAYS be there, she really has no incentive to do anything about it. That's why the push/pull of relationships is so real.

Right now, you've got it tough because she's with another guy. There's nothing you can do about it. You just have to hope that you left her with a good enough impression of you so that when things start to break down with the OM, she'll start thinking of you. Happens all the time. Whether or not it happens in yours is up to her.

[Jeack]

Thanks for the clarification Bond!!!! And I do know i'm definitely jumping the gun, just wanted your opinion. If should arise.

[Jeack]

Well Just checking in. Still no property settlement agreement from the STBXW. I've been hearing by the end of the week for 3 weeks now. It'd funny i've stopped snooping stopped texting and calling unless it's pertaining to the D which i've even stopped that lately to. I think i'm finally starting to detach. I ran my first spartan race Saturday (obstacle type of race) felt great to hit that finish line. The STBXW was suppose to go but given our current S obviously didn't and I didn't ask her to go either.

Funny thing is she never texted me for my birthday,anniversary easter or fathers day. But texted me good luck in the race. I never responded. Then I found out she was calling a mutual friend to find out who all was going. When he said he wasn't going and didn't know who was, she stopped responding to him.

I meet my brother in law for lunch yesterday first time seeing him really since Christmas. We had a good time. he said how good I looked talked about the race and his job. I think he was relieved that I didn't bring up his sister/my W. So looks like I won't lose his friendship over the whole D.

[Jeack]

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[Jeack]

So now I just get another text from the W that just says "hey". Funny she can only text during the day because she's up the OM ass all the time. I don't even want respond. Looking for advice on how to handle it. My last text to her was 2 weeks ago basically saying if she doesn't want to respond to me then any further questions just have the lawyers handle it.

Some people think reality may be finally setting in for her. Don't know.