BD One Year Later

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H did go with me on Sunday, to my surprise. CV, it was important to me because it was an event for the airport to select a new director and I wanted his input. I also wanted to give him the opportunity because I knew, even though he wouldn't admit it, that it was important to him as an airport user and vendor. It also helps his ego because he has "insider" information.

We had a very good time and when the people we were meeting asked about how we met, he told stories with a smile on his face and discussed enjoyable times.

At the end of the night, he gave me his opinions and I thanked him for his input and bounced some ideas off of him.

Today is our anniversary. I was in a meeting ALL day, which helped keep my mind off of the event. I didn't even think about it until I got home and I feel indifferent. I picked up fried chicken, which makes this the first otherwise celebratory time that I didn't make a nice meal since BD. I did not bring up the subject and neither did he. However, I always made a bigger deal out of it than he did.

Last year when I did make a nice meal he asked if it was our anniversary meal. For every event, I would initiate good wishes, kisses, dinner, etc. So my attitude today is a big 180.

As of today, still no follow thru on H's part to see an accountant. He made a threat with it last week and once again accused me of running up his credit cards. He was mad because I cut off a card that I guaranteed. I told him to give them all back to me and he refused, so I closed the account. I did that in April. I gave him back the cards that had no guarantee and told him so. He's forgotten that.

As with the D early on, the accountant/finances threats come when he is made about something.

The sad part is, again, the lack of recognition on his part. H has no understanding of cash flow. He knows his credit cards are maxed and his latest purchases have been to outfit a new golf cart. I think he sold the old one, for less than he bought the new one, but I haven't seen any check. If it was cash, he's hidden it somewhere.

On the wish list is something to make the welder MIG/TIG instead of just one of them, a new rolling tool cart, new sofa and loveseat for his office at the airport. And he's planning a trip a the end of the month to an airshow that he would fly to that is 700 miles away.

The spending is not stopping. It's like an addict that has to hit rock bottom before he comes out of it.