I've been and seen a solicitor today and to be honest I really can't afford to go down this road. I think it would be better If we could come to some kind of arrangement between us?
You called her bluff and told her to proceed......and now she's saying she really can't afford that route. I still think she's playing you. If.....(and that's a big if)) she saw a lawyer at all, she found out she would not be getting everything like she wants. She knows that you have not been able to tell her no in the past, so she knows she stands a better win to deal directly with you, rather than paying a lawyer to get less for her.
Take a few more days to think about it. You ARE NOT required to respond to anything she tries to push on you. I don't care how many questions she asks. If you are not in favor ......don't respond. Give it some time to think more about it. Since she has treated you like she did........all because you didn't keep the kids a couple of days.....after already giving her almost a week off, I see no reason you should jump just b/c she says so.
She will screw you over......b/c she thinks you are still that passive "yes" man who won't take up for himself. "If" she is truly wanting to get a D. I noticed she never used that word in her email. If you go ahead and answer her.....and you've not been able to control yourself in the past......try to keep it short and asking for better clarification and saying you want time to think on it. But save all the transactions between the two of you. And do not agree to anything without taking a couple of weeks to think it over carefully.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
