Questions without answers...am I stuck in place?

[albamarie]

Yesterday 3 guys collectively emailed H about his lack of interest in handling "his" responsibilities for work. They we upset that he doesn't do his own invoices, scheduling, and calls, saying that they all find the time while being good H's and handling everything else in life.

My S22 (same industry) called them saying don't lump me in w my dad, he has my mom do those things because he is not a person who handles life or is a good H. If she didn't do the invoices we wouldn't have the mortgage, don't you guys see he's off, stop pretending he's ok, you have known him forever, what do you see wrong here.

Then S22 said to me that I shouldn't be backing H up, but he gets that H won't handle the business if I don't. S22 wan't me to drop it all and let H fall.

This business is our strongest tie and more important than my feelings, or H's anger, it's our life's $$$. How would I drop out, let the crazy guy take over something I have been managing for 20yrs.

He doesn't even know how to use a computer, or scan, or fax, fill out an invoice, nor does he have time, or the mind anymore to learn. He was a computer science major in college and now he is mush!

I read about depression last night and relationships. A lot of spouses WAW when the illness is not taken care of. I'm doing my part of this~ in sickness and of health

I am feeling my own depression looming, I feel to stuck, and I don't have may happy days of fun, or fulfillment. I think I am past the GAL and more intense decisions need to me made.