Me 49, W is 40. Unable to have children (lost 2 babies in 2008 and 2010) Separated in 2011, couples counseling (after W had an affair) and reunited in fall of 2011.
July 14 2013 (yesterday) was my birthday. W has been very quiet recently with very little physical contact, spent the entire weekend together this week, had physical "relations" and suddenly this morning she walks up to me before I left for work and says... "I want a divorce, I am not in love with you any more, I love you like a family member, you are part of me, but I am not in love with you" she followed with "You have taken great care of me, been a good husband, but I want out" I countered with 2 hours of silence, followed by an "I love you" as I went out the door to work. I am Still in shock and still in that fog...
I am shell-shocked, keep me in your prayers. No kids has eliminated any glue that would have kept us together. My blind eye thought things were fine. (she was abused as a child but had been to counseling and has been on prozac for about 1 year).
Mind is racing, trying to cry, fighting anger... doing the "180" (it worked before). I am simply afraid to reach out to her and numb at the moment...unbelievably numb.
After we lost the babies (2008 and 2010) we expanded our lives together to include church, riding motorcycles, going to the gun range (yes...we live in the south), traveling (Mexico, hawaii, etc) but she began to pull away this past winter and it climaxed this morning.
I know I will be fine (with your prayers) but I simply love my wife and do not want this... God help me, right now I am just incredibly lost, sad and all ready wishing I could talk to her...
We had a great relationship at one time, no fighting, no violence (thank God), and no reason not to survive the loss of our children. I am just a guy that like stability and loves his wife.
Help... online or offline. I am in need of courage and prayer. I just got home from work and her clothes are gone...
