Crazy MLC - no drugs. I think there are emotional issues related to her childhood that she has never dealt with.
The lawyer indicated we will have 50/50 custody. She said that it is a very high threshold to prove that a mother is unfit, and my W's behaviour does not qualify.
I am in no way controlling or abusive. In fact, everyone tells me my biggest problem is being overly submissive. This is the 2nd time in our entire relationship that I have established a boundary and tried to enforce it. The first was when I started managing my own money. Both times, I got this same response.
I believe this is a legitimate boundary and it is not abusive to enforce it. But, I will discuss it with my L.
She always has to win, and if I don't take a vary passive turn the other cheek approach, it would spiral out of control. I have learned that over the years, but I am tired of being afraid of her. I need to assert myself on certain issues regardless of the conflict it creates.
My W refuses to move out for many reasons: 1) Money - she likes me paying all the bills 2) Convenience - she likes having me around to pay for the kids 3) Future custody/house - her L told her not to move out 4) She likes living in the same house with her kids
My L basically said that I cannot have any protection for myself or the kids until I file. I really wanted to give her space and try db'ing longer. But, I don't think I can. Nor do I think it is effective.
