Hey bond, I guess I didn't word that correctly. DB is the same, true. But the MLC element has made db at times more difficult, at least for me. Sometimes I think I'm just offering too many excuses for H... but the patience I'm trying to develop due to the added element of MLC is far different than what may normally be due in other db situations. At least it feels that way in my experience. But DB is the same in either application. For me personally, the only thing that's keeping me in the limbo pattern is that I can see H ticking off each of the mlc boxes. And maybe he'll get to the end and figure out what he's all about. And maybe I'll be understanding and have new tools to develop a new relationship based on what I've learned about mlc & db.
thanks cadet. It gets confusing when I read that reconciliation after the first year of separation is less likely. But that doesn't apply to mlc does it? Elsewhere I've read that reconciliation is unlikely before 2 years with mlc. I know we're not supposed to rely on timelines and I generally don't anymore, except to think 'thank god I'm 1 year down!' It's more of a marker of how far we've come instead of when will it be over now.
