While I understand the boundaries you are trying to enforce here, SOME of your behaviors might be interpreted as controlling or abusive in the wrong court (such as cutting off the phone etc.). Also, it just spirals the two of you into a destructive tit-for-tat, and she's crazy enough to do you some harm, it sounds like.
I'm glad you called the cops - good to document anything you can. And glad you went ahead and filed - that's the only way you can really protect yourself in the long run.
Are you planning to ask for custody of the kids? Is W refusing to move out for financial reasons, or because she won't go without the kids? What advice is your attorney giving you on all this?
I haven't read your old threads, but it sure sounds like your W is in a crazy place right now (crazy MLC? Or crazy drugs? Do you have any suspicions of substance abuse or mental instability beyond the ordinary craziness of cheaters?).
What will be best for your kids now? They need to be your focus.
