I would be interested in peoples thoughts on this.
My thoughts are that if you and your W can come to a peaceful agreement on D then by all means do it. Solicitors will just foster bad blood between you, but if you can quietly and peacefully negotate a settlement then everyone is better off. Plus it keeps the way home paved and smooth by showing her that despite D you can still address issues with her in a calm demeanor.
Hey AS,
That makes sense but then aren't I helping her achieve D? I thought we weren't supposed to do anyhing to aid D?
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
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I think any conversations we may or may not have in the future are going to be two people not agreeing.
That's called "stinking thinking." If you go in thinking like that then it'll happen that way. How about saying "even though we've had trouble agreeing in the past, I really think we can change that pattern and work together in the future!" Then do your part to make THAT happen.
Again that makes sense although I find the majority of what she has asked for to be too much. I also know where I stand in regards to what I would have to give her if we did do D through solicitors and it's nowhere near what she is wanting. How could I possibly come out of this without being the evil H?
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
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Should I be pushing for any type of apology after her "sneaky snake" accusations?
No. Chalk it up as WAW spew.
Aren't I then saying it is OK for her talk to talk me in this way?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
If you go in thinking like that then it'll happen that way. How about saying "even though we've had trouble agreeing in the past, I really think we can change that pattern and work together in the future!" Then do your part to make THAT happen. 
