This weekend was eventful as ever. On Friday I took my W to rock climbing and then we went for dinner and a bar afterwards. We had a nice conversation. She talked a little bit about her applications to return to school. At the bar, my W drank alot, but she claimed to not be drunk, and she didn't seem to be to me. It was around 11pm, and she wanted to go somewhere else too. As we we're leaving I was in front and I get to the front of the bar and she is not there. She is back by the bar on her cell phone texting her GF (I assume, it's what she said). Then walking over to another bar, but one that has music, I reach for her hand to guide her through a crowd, and she pulled away from me.
It really pissed me off. Also, in June, it was my W who reached out and held my hand when we were alone in town walking together.
Anyway, I left her on the street, went and got the car and came and picked her up to leave. We left, and my W was all sad and maybe mad at me. At home, sitting in the car, she says the ironic thing is that I never really wanted to touch in public, hold hands, etc. This is true, and was one of her complaints. I said to her, "well, can't I change too?" This made her sad, and she didn't want to cry so she walked inside. We made up a little bit.
On Saturday, my W left to go to the gym in the morning. I made my girls waffles with a new waffle iron we bought as a "kitchen present" for my W. We gave it to her the day before to celebrate our remodeled kitchen. My W took it, said wow how great. What I find interesting is my W rarely says "thank you" anymore.
My MIL who is with us asked "where's W?" because she had a dentist appointment. I took my MIL to the dentist. My W also had an appointment. The dental office called my W who rushed over to the dentist and arrived sweaty in her gym clothes. Later that day, my W thanked me, and lately she rarely says "thanks" to anything.
In the afternoon, my W cooked for a pot lock dinner we were going to with some of her co-workers to celebrate that the hospital now has PA (which is what my W wants to return to school for). It was a nice informal dinner party. I notice at these parties, my W and I do not spend much time together -- in fact almost none. She went her own way, and I went my own way. I enjoyed myself.
At home on Saturday nite, my W went to bed early. I put the girls to sleep alone.
On Sunday, we ate breakfast and my W practiced piano. Then MIL asked her to put curtains on the guest bedroom windows. My W took the lead, and I helped her. At noon I left to go sailing in a regatta. I had a great day of sailing.
My W took my girls to a Japanese festival, and then my W went flying. I encouraged her to take my oldest daughter who expressed interest, but it seems my D didn't want to go. I'm not sure if my D is unhappy with W and "punishing her" or what? I'm also not sure how to change the dynamic between them.
