Wow, new restaurants and pole dancing, you go girl!
Bright, you and I have switched places in our sitches. My xSO has fallen off the earth and your is popping up and making you nervous. No worries, that is completely normal.
For me, it was like the twilight zone - here I am talking about nothing to a man that I loved and we were both pretending that out relationship never existed. I never forget my horror when he went to call me my nickname and then stopped in full stream and then used my real name. Like I never noticed! It was the "fake" conversation which made me nervous. Is that how you feel, too?
Bright, take it from me. It IS positive that your H contacts you, even if he just business-like. There has been a lot of water under the bridge and maybe he's just proceeding with caution.
