I am trying to disappear in H's life. I haven't responded to any texts from him (even if they are about the children or money), and I no longer interact with him during kid exchange. He wanted me gone, and I need to be just that...gone. Besides, I think it is best for me too. I feel it will keep me from being roped into his drama. I know this goes against all DB principles, because I am supposed to try and make small interactions with H and make them light and pleasant. I did that, and it got me no where except more hurt, more angry, and seemed to cause more problems.
If distance is what YOU need, then it IS the right decision. I could not agree with GM more. If you need to think of it in a DBing kind of way, think that bad interactions are worse than no interactions.
I think at some points we all need some peace, a time away from the drama and a time to just BE. And regroup.
Divorce and splitting up may be common, but they are no less traumatic, especially when one partner is in MLC. If I ever thought about my relationship ending, I certainly did not picture it ending like it did.
I have had no contact with my xSO for a long time and I do not have any desire right now to contact him. I know many would say then there is no chance at a relationship if one person doesn't work at it. Well, that is a chance I am willing to take right now because it is a good and healthy choice for me.
You know what are good choices for you, B. Trust yourself.
