Read an article this morning about that actor form Glee that has died. At the end it had this:
Life is too short my friends – if you love someone, tell them; if you miss someone, tell them; if you want to do something, do it now – tomorrow might be too late. Take that opportunity that would change your life; take the hand of that person who will change your life AND you.
So hard to read that and not reach out to my W.
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Well today is supposed to be the day W starts the divorce petition.
I will look forward to the mail for the foreseeable future.
It will be a shame if something my W actually follows through on is the D.
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Love the sig. I read that on one of your posts weeks ago and I was trying to find it again for ages.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Well today is supposed to be the day W starts the divorce petition.
I will look forward to the mail for the foreseeable future.
It will be a shame if something my W actually follows through on is the D.
It may depend on your county, but you may be able to check online to see if something has been filed if you don't want to deal with the dread of waiting to be served. Good luck.
I was watching a movie on my media center and a notifiaction popped up on the screen: GMail Inbox Title: Divorce
Gulp!
This is the email from W:
Hi,
I've been and seen a solicitor today and to be honest I really can't afford to go down this road. I think it would be better If we could come to some kind of arrangement between us?
Wife
I haven't replied.
I would be interested in peoples thoughts on this.
I was curious to how she could afford it.
Would it worth posting here my response to her original email and what she wanted so it can be picked apart?
It's a fair point because it would cost money that neither of us had. I think any conversations we may or may not have in the future are going to be two people not agreeing. Might be worth just starting with when I'm going have the kids and go from there.
Should I be pushing for any type of apology after her "sneaky snake" accusations?
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I would be interested in peoples thoughts on this.
My thoughts are that if you and your W can come to a peaceful agreement on D then by all means do it. Solicitors will just foster bad blood between you, but if you can quietly and peacefully negotate a settlement then everyone is better off. Plus it keeps the way home paved and smooth by showing her that despite D you can still address issues with her in a calm demeanor.
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I think any conversations we may or may not have in the future are going to be two people not agreeing.
That's called "stinking thinking." If you go in thinking like that then it'll happen that way. How about saying "even though we've had trouble agreeing in the past, I really think we can change that pattern and work together in the future!" Then do your part to make THAT happen.
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Should I be pushing for any type of apology after her "sneaky snake" accusations?
I would be interested in peoples thoughts on this.
My thoughts are that if you and your W can come to a peaceful agreement on D then by all means do it. Solicitors will just foster bad blood between you, but if you can quietly and peacefully negotate a settlement then everyone is better off. Plus it keeps the way home paved and smooth by showing her that despite D you can still address issues with her in a calm demeanor.
Hey AS,
That makes sense but then aren't I helping her achieve D? I thought we weren't supposed to do anyhing to aid D?
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
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I think any conversations we may or may not have in the future are going to be two people not agreeing.
That's called "stinking thinking." If you go in thinking like that then it'll happen that way. How about saying "even though we've had trouble agreeing in the past, I really think we can change that pattern and work together in the future!" Then do your part to make THAT happen.
Again that makes sense although I find the majority of what she has asked for to be too much. I also know where I stand in regards to what I would have to give her if we did do D through solicitors and it's nowhere near what she is wanting. How could I possibly come out of this without being the evil H?
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
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Should I be pushing for any type of apology after her "sneaky snake" accusations?
No. Chalk it up as WAW spew.
Aren't I then saying it is OK for her talk to talk me in this way?
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I agree totally with AS but when it comes to answering I am truly in doubt. There have been some discussion about your Ws actions and saying over the last week and with this in mind I would properly apply 48++ rule and hope for Sandi to come by your thread!
She could have been talking to a lawyer but then again! The talk of lawyers started at the end of last week and today is Monday. It is holiday and in my country it would have been absolutely impossible to get an appointment with a lawyer in that short notice at present time. Just a thought! And with that follows even more doubts.
She states a question and I believe in answering questions – that’s just how I am! I would properly leave this with her and answer kindly with a question about the arrangement she mentions.
But I would prefer to have Sandi in on this!
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Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
If you go in thinking like that then it'll happen that way. How about saying "even though we've had trouble agreeing in the past, I really think we can change that pattern and work together in the future!" Then do your part to make THAT happen.