We now return you to your regularly scheduled program.
S, DIL and GD were to have moved in with me. It was agreed upon they should move into Mom’s house. D has been living there for 12 years and feels as though she should not have roommates.
It is not her house and she has not managed her funds well. At this point she is a poor college student. She is not able to afford the anticipated utilities.
Immaturity abounds as DIL feels she should not have to support D and wants D to pay half of the utilities. S, DIL and GD will live with D in a large home for the cost of utilities and groceries. Of course they have to clean and maintain it. I will assume responsibility for repairs and property taxes. I view this as a good deal for all parties. They’re sniping at each other, go figure.
A couple of days ago D was angrily venting and I stumbled. I began to use personal accusatory phrases such as “You need to…” As I was saying these I realized what I was doing, stopped and about an hour later apologized. Yesterday D was venting again, I described her tone and words as appearing victim like and reminded her I could not solve her issue. Better.
She is not happy. This is not my issue. This is an opportunity for growth. I will not dance upon the triangle.
Yesterday, DIL asked X to babysit. Afterwards she was critical of the manner X babysat. I said nothing.
This weekend I moved the content of my father’s office. The man was a meticulous record keeper. Records going back to the mid 50s will occupy my time and shredder. Of more immediate concern is Mom’s lack of organized record keeping and getting the utilities squared away. The kids are almost moved in and I have reminded D her brother will have orders elsewhere in less than two years.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
