Yes she is still on my insurance coverage so when I say I don't think she is seeing a counselor it's because she would def have to use our insurance and I would be receiving the paperwork from BCBS like I do for everything else.
There may have been a miscommunication on the parts about leaving her kids. I don't feel she left them at all, she hasn't, she has them for the 2 days I go to work at the fire dept, them I get them on the 3 days I'm off. I meant that I don't understand how she could leave "me" and the family as a whole when we have such young kids and had a baby with me just 9 months ago. I'm very careful not to attack her mothering in anyway or at all. She loves them more than anything.
My family is controlling to a point. Asking us over for dinner a lot, which we didn't go or I'd go alone while she was working, and all holidays at there place, which just this last Xmas my W told me she as a mother wanted to start having Xmas at our home. I said sure and told my family that. I understand she has issues with things from my family and I made changes in the past when she mentioned it and stood up for her many times when I truly feel my W was being very unreasonable. Always taking her side as a husband should and then dealing with her one on one behind closed doors. What I had realized is that she just wasn't used to that type of close family. She goes a month without talking to her dad and sisters. Very different but I understood it was her.
What do you mean by, "you left them too, when you went to the shed to drink"? Maybe your mixing up my story with another? I never leave them. I work 48 on and 72 hours off. I pick them up in the morning of my first day off and keep them until the night before I go back to work. So my free time consist of about 7pm till bedtime before waking up at 5am for work. And that's 2 days a week. And the 2 nights at work are not free time, being at work is work. If anything I have not made enough time for myself through all of this and haven't made enough time for my W and I in our marriage. We should have taken more time for ourselves to stay connected.
To this early point I have made good changes in myself, for myself and that would benefit a new relationship down the road. Hoping and praying that is with my wife but that's still up in the air. We leave the 5th of aug for our vacation which will be a 13 hr car ride to her parents. Hoping we can have a nice stress free time with the kids.


M:33
W:32
Married:8
Together:10
S:5,4 and 8 months
BD: 4/1/13
W move out day: 5/4/13
ILYBNINWY,WAS. No talk of wanting to save relationship