Yes, Ala-non is for people who's lives are effected by an alcoholics. DON'T try and make her go. I have been sober for 11 years in AA, as well has my H. My mom refuses to go, and that woman is as co-dependant as I have ever met. I never suggest it. STOP. Your wife sees you as the problem. I see that time and time again in AA when a spouse gets sober.
My H as suggested I go to ala-non a few times over the years and I shrugged it off. Hey, I do the 12 steps with AA, what's the different. Well, now that I've been going to ala-non for 9 months I'm so grateful to have gone. AA saved my life. Helped me stop drinking. Ala-non has saved me in a different way, the bondage other people held over me.
Keep the focus on your sobriety, your kids and yourself and you will be great regardless if your wife comes back. No one ever told me when I got to AA that everything would go my way, just that I could learn to deal with life with other tools than to drink myself into a stupor.
What are your GALS? Do you go to AA, or is it a church addiction support group? Don't focus too much on your girls and your sitch that you neglect your sobriety. Your wife may come back, but you will be no use to anyone if you drink again. Keeping that #1 ensuring you will be good.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
