Yes, that is why i am going to the gym. I am hoping that strength training will result in some weight gain. Is that why you would encourage it?
The only way you're going to put on weight is to eat! If you weight train and you still have no appetite, then you'll still be stuck in a weight loss pattern. But here's the good news- if you join a gym and start going frequently you will GET A LIFE You'll meet people, you'll start feeling better about yourself, you'll think about W less. When you GAL, your appetite comes back because you're not stressing all the time about your sitch. So THAT is the reason to do it! By the way, I have been a gym rat in my past but had not gone in years before BD. After BD I jumped back in with fervor. I also started tanning. A year later I look and feel better than I have in decades. Sometimes you'll hear people say you can't build muscle at our age, but it's not true, you absolutely can
Originally Posted By: prometheus
So, I was finishing at the gym this morning and found a text on my phone from W. She asked "is there a reason that you didn't sign the lease or are you just being difficult?"
I replied to her text later saying "Good morning. Yes. No."
How should i approach this in a loving detached way? What have i done wrong? Help would be most welcome.
Don't be vague and wishy-washy. I'm guessing that's how you were in the M? If so, a 180 from that would be... confident, secure, direct. If you don't want to sign it then tell her you're not comfortable signing it given your current sitch. If she gets mad then so be it. That's better than dragging it on and on though.
Originally Posted By: hotwheelsaust
As a PE teacher I should know this and do this, but after losing nearly 20kgs on the separation diet, I am showing a huge loss of muscle and simply look like skin and bones. On the positive I am starting to show a six pack. Or at least a very good 1 pack.
BWAAAHAAHAAA! I love that! Keep that sense of humor
You'll meet people, you'll start feeling better about yourself, you'll think about W less. When you GAL, your appetite comes back because you're not stressing all the time about your sitch. So THAT is the reason to do it! By the way, I have been a gym rat in my past but had not gone in years before BD. After BD I jumped back in with fervor. I also started tanning. A year later I look and feel better than I have in decades. Sometimes you'll hear people say you can't build muscle at our age, but it's not true, you absolutely can 
