Just saying hello.

[prometheus]

...Who knows what is coming next.

This is precisely the kind of thing that i am doing my best NOT to focus on. It is out of my control. I am trying really hard to achieve and maintain a reality where my thoughts, words and deeds, arise out of my own intention, rather than from a fear and dread of what my W may or may not be thinking/doing/saying.

All I can suggest (since you are at least communicating, lucky bugger) is to maybe expand on your answering back to her.

Thank you for highlighting this ^^^ for me hotwheelsaust. My reply was deliberately curt. I had asked my wife some time ago to please NOT text me about important stuff like this, but rather have a conversation(it is potentially a far superior communication tool than text message!). We do live in the same house, after all.

Rather than good morning. Yes. No. Maybe a better answer would have been to at least state some of the reason why you didn't sign the lease and added "can we talk later about it". Also rather than saying no, you could have validated the answer. "I didn't mean for it to cause difficulty to you, can I hear later the reasons you feel it was causing difficulties". Something along those lines anyway.

Having read your reply, i can see that i did not take the high road when responding to W's txt. For a start, i was too easily offended at the stark message from W. I suppose i thought that since i had left the house when all were sleeping this morning, i might have got a greeting in the text i got from W @ 7:45am, instead of one, which seemed to me, to have overtones of annoyance attached. I let that get to me, and got annoyed.

Perhaps my new found annoyance helped to inform my short response. I suppose, too, that i was annoyed because she had called me out over not signing the lease. I closed down the conversation with those few words...

So, i can see that i could have been more mature about this by responding in a similar vein as you have suggested. I still could have forestalled the discussion until it was at a more opportune time and was being conducted via a more comfortable medium, without offending W, or escalating tensions. Gee, i must remember that for next time.

Still, it will be a delicate subject to navigate, as i believe that W is aware of my unease in regards to signing up again. <--I struggle not to mind read here. As it stands, the rent is coming directly out of my wage, and i am having a hard time admitting to myself that i am feeling somewhat selfish about that. I don't earn all that much, and it is nearly half of my wage. I feel guilty that i am thinking that W should be offering to pay some. I am struggling with all of this affecting what i do etc. as i go on about above^^^.

With regards to the weights with . One of the main reasons it is suggested is because the bones and muscles deteriorate more as we age. The weights are believed to reduce the level of deterioration. As a PE teacher I should know this and do this, but after losing nearly 20kgs on the separation diet, I am showing a huge loss of muscle and simply look like skin and bones. On the positive I am starting to show a six pack. Or at least a very good 1 pack.

Thanks very much for that info. Similar story here, although i have *only* lost about 10kg. I can identify with the 1 pack! ...and the diet. A few people have asked me if i am on a diet, and i sometimes have jokingly replied "why yes, it is called the 'trauma' diet"