Question is, how do I learn to detach? It's so hard for me not to let him affect me even though I am starting to come to terms with the reality that he doesn't even care about me anymore (forget love, forget being in love, forget wanting to stay married). He's going to be in my life bc he wants his son.
Quit focusing on H. Focus on you and (in a few weeks) on your child, connect with old friends and bring new ones into the mix. Get more involved with family. Get out and GAL. Get a nice stroller and go for walks in the park, get involved in a local church, go do volunteer work, maybe something like taking your baby to a retirement home (the elderly LOVE babies!) This will take your mind off H and help you detach.
Detaching is a slow process, so be patient. The key is to not sit around thinking "am I detached yet?" but to just get out and do stuff that doesn't involve your H.
