Am I ready for this?

[reachingHigher]

I see that as really positive, Mtnman. W may see the contrast between her brothers and mom pushing her away and not being supportive---contrasted with you and the boys both loving her fully. She just has to be brave enough to accept it.

I know last fall as we pursued D I started to push H and my boys into spending time together. That was from advice here on the forum to show him what it would be like being D.

H told me later that it wasn't "the same" without me around. I had the feeling he enjoyed the time so much more with us all together. He had to contrast that with the thought of what he would be gaining (independence from M) and if it would be worth it. They have to make the choice.

You being the loving, supportive H (although you can't say it, you can show it in a lot of ways) and the boys loving their mom, is a powerful draw for her I would think. Especially for a mom and the boys being so young. She must want to show them the kind of love her dad showed her. There is some pain in her heart that must be resolved also. I believe she will get there.

Just keep being strong. A wonderful H, father and provider. Who wouldn't want that? You're doing great!

rH