I just wanted to add that with all of the stuff that W has "surprised" me with lately, i am not feeling very trusting of her, and i guess that is part of the reason why i am agonising over this.

Any thoughts?

Me: 49
W: 47
M: 19 T: 25
Son:19
Dau:13
Son:6
BD: Aug: 2012
Separated - same house: May, 2013
Ultimatum to move out: Dec 2013
W looking to move out: January 2014
Dau says go, I move out: June 2014