DB seemingly backfired w/ my H???

[Mimi00]

Would it be wrong of me to move?

No, I don't think so. Better job... more pay... leaving a semi-toxic (for you it seems) environment... back to an area you are very familiar with... That seems like a boatload of positives to me.

Am I required to discuss my moving with H first?

Personally, I would. It would only be proper to discuss a major move with your husband. It is going to have an affect on his life in some manner and only seems fair. Ask for his opinion. Ask him how he would feel about it.

When you have the discussion, I would only discuss the the positives (save the parental thing) it would be for you. I might consider all the positives the move would have on BOTH of you (more money, career advancement, better working, etc) and what it might mean to your future, as well. I might tell him that since he works in yet another state that where you are living and working will not affect what he is doing.

If he brings up the D residency requirement thing, I would feign ignorance on the matter with a simple "Gees, that thought never even entered my mind. I was only considering the positives" or something to that effect.

Thanks for your feedback!

Yes, there are a lot of positives. You right about it being an area I am familiar with, it's funny over the last few months I've been craving foods I can only get there. I really miss my environment there and life was good, I wish H could see that. I know unfortunately he felt negative, he didn't feel I was happy when he would walk in the door after work. I'm not a person who is a cheerleader type, but I feel like he knows me and should know that the fact I am there EVERYDAY when he came home with a freshly cooked meal on plate for him should have spoke volumes, but I guess that's not what he saw as love. It's kind of annoying he wanted me to show all of this "happiness" and feeling wanted when he came home from work, but on his off days, when I would come home from work, he's be sleep on the sofa, or watching a movie, he only had a meal for me a few times and he didn't seem "happy" to see me, but I didn't read in to that, I didn't even think about it. I would come inside usually kiss him on the head or lay with him, then prepare a meal even though I was the one who worked that day.

Sorry I went wayyyyy off topic lol

I do feel strange about telling him about my move though.... he made his decision to move back to the mountains a few days ago and sign a new full year contract with them with out discussing it with me So I kind of want to do this without saying anything to him, but I know it would probably not sit well with him if I didn't tell him....it'll be awkward telling him. If I decided to go for it, maybe I will tell him by text... we'll see?!