I would be like you too, Valeska19, and probably choose option 1 and let the issue go, weighing out if it's "worth it" to voice my opinion. I'm someone who doesn't like rocking the boat, so often time I'll bite my tongue. The problem with that is that we don't get our own needs met and (for me at least), putting everyone's needs before mine for a long time would probably create resentment within me.
I think option #3 is definitely a good route and it will probably take time to effectively articulate to your X how you want to be treated. There will be times where she might not respond well, but I hope there will also be times where you speaking up will improve the interactions between you and your X.
