2 year A confirmed

[complicated]

Fy- I haven't been dbing for 3 years, only since about November when I found this forum and Michelle's books. I have been separated for 1.5 years and got the ILYBNILWY speech about 3 years ago. So, no other name for me.

Hi Dmarie, nice to meet you. I have gotten a lot of good advice on this forum. I have also been trying to enjoy the pool. We don't get too much time to use it especially when you work.

Today a friend came over with her son and dog because they are trying to sell their house. H stopped by to pick up 2 of the kids to go to the driving range and he made a comment about the dog being in the pool. I said the pool guy said no big deal. H says OK you never listen to me so if something happens it's on you. Whatever.

After he left D said was dad mad dog was in pool. I said yeah. My friend said it got real uncomfortable when he got here. He was checking out everything outside and I got the impression he was checking to make sure I was taking care of everything. I'm doing the best I can when doing the work 2 people used to do.

H thinks the kids just want him to be happy. Friend said D ran to her house a few days ago and broke down. Told her what was going on and was really upset. I think she's been holding it in. She kind of takes after H in that respect. I feel so bad for her. I had told her earlier that if she ever wanted to talk I'm here for her. I'm not going to bring this up to her because I don't want to break her confidence in friend. I'm going to let it be between the two of them.

I know she doesn't want to get in the middle so I'm glad she had friend to talk to. I think h is so clueless. But I was still nice when he came over. Talked to him like nothing was wrong and even said I was cooking dinner and he was welcome to stay. He didn't but I'm not going to lower myself to him and be angry 24/7.

I have counselor appointment tomorrow. Kind of curious to see what she has to say. She can't tell me everything but she does tell me how their sessions go. Usually she says something like he still has a lot of issues to work on and that I'm doing good with mine.

Hope everyone had a nice Sunday.