Today W and I went bicycle riding with my sister, BIL and nephew. W wore hot little short shorts and looked great! It helps that her bike mechanic (me) makes sure that her saddle is adjusted properly. Oh my!

Anyways, we all had a good time. At the end W mentioned how she got a thumbs up from some "old guy". Then made a comment about how she only can hit it off with the "older crowd", which is silly, because she looks much younger than her age. I see 'em lookin'.

I mentioned that the guy on the motorcycle beeped at her too, (no way in he!! he was beepin' at me!) and told her that it didn't surprise me at all.

We then went to run a few errands, and had a nice lunch together.

W's also concerned about her weight again, as she claims to have gained a few pounds. Looks great to me, of course, and I looked her in the eye and told her so.

Originally Posted By: RH
It seems your W has the desire for validation she is attractive. From people other than you. She obviously tells you lots of things, but chooses to include the details of other men finding her appealing. I wonder how much of that she needs before she is satisfied.


You aren't the only one wondering that!

Google "Bullitt chase scene" on Utube to watch what many still consider the best car chase in a movie. Ever.

Originally Posted By: Tori
your W is looking for validation bc she's having trouble loving herself.

She'll grow at her own pace. It's great you can accept the situation for what is.

Would she ever go out to drinks with you? I wonder...


Tori: Linda is right, the flirt was a black dude.

Thanks for your continued support. I really do think W is growing, but it's so hard to tell when you're in the middle of the sitch, everyday. As far as me accepting the sitch for what it is, I don't see any better option.

No, W will not go out for drinks with me. If she did, I'm sure it would be quite uncomfortable. She is often withdrawn and quiet when we are together. She's searching to "discover" her new self, the one that missed out on life. Can't do that with me right now.

Linda: Funny thing is the old W avoided dancing like the plague. Was always too self conscious, worried that others would judge her lack of skills. She's still not comfortable with it, and certainly is not doing it often, but did show me a pic GF took of her on the dance floor. GF told W it was "proof" that W could dance if she wanted to.

Warding off those OM for sure!

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl