You may be right rH, maybe your take was what Complicated intended - I can see how it could be read that way.
These men can't see that love is a choice.
BINGO!! Give that little lady a stuffed frog!
H feels love should be like Hollywood "You complete me" nonsense. All the time.
And, in our talks, he has disagreed with the notion that I might be more "fun" if I was treated differently, and if he was faithful. Like you know, being surrounded by his workmates didn't leave me wondering which one(s) he was pursuing, and which ones knew about the one(s) he was pursuing, and hating being there, feeling like the biggest fool EVER.
Any who. H has been texting me about a fellow gambler who H thought was going to be a friend and "business" partner. Turns out this guy is getting on H's nerves. (LOL, say it ain't so!) But the reason H is getting annoyed made me think. H is complaining this guy is "too cerebral", "Like S20". H doesn't get along with S20. H complains about me being "too smart". Now this guy is also a problem because of his apparent intelligence. I see a theme!
For whatever reason, my intelligent H is feeling threatened by those he perceives as overly brainy. This is mind boggling, because my H is one of the smartest people I know. But I guess he's not seeing himself that way right now.
IDK what to do with this info, just food for thought.
Cheers!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
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