I know I need to focus on me, not W. BUT, I don't understand how she's gonna change her perception unless she tries and she's not trying... Therefore, no matter what I do, she's gonna block it. I'm frustrated and desperate because I'm focusing on her too much!
She doesn't have to try. Somehow you need to get to a place of accepting that you can't control others. You have a difficult time controlling you. That's where your work needs to focus.
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When time goes by and I leave her alone and focus on me, eventually she lashes out at me in anger because I'm not "listening to her", or "I'm in denial" because I'm not signing the D papers she served me with last February.
I didn't realize you already had the D papers.
You don't have to sign but is that getting you closer to your goal?
Sometimes we have to love our S enough to let them go.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
