Run and hide your crazy

[RosaLinda]

Ah J, I think you have hit the nail on the head when you said that your H "seems to have an attitude of disbelief that this, our M, can really be "all there is" to M. He sees TV and movies and "other people" who seem to be having so much "more". And naturally, I am the one who's at fault."

These men can't see that love is a choice. That a R takes work, and it has to be their choice to do the things that show their partner that she is loved and cherished. I think MLC makes it worse, but in your case think your H never did have much of a loving attitude towards you. But as you say, his emails show he is capable. My H says he decided not to show me love, affection, kindness, because he "has never been an affectionate type of person and is tired of faking it." But his emails and gifts to his OW show differently too. he knows exactly how to make a woman feel loved. RT even wrote it to him -- he "knows how to please a woman." arrrgggghhh

Here is my hope for us, J, and all of us in this situation. Our Hs have reverted to childhood, and are students at MLC High. I'm hoping that when they graduate, and return to real life (us) they will remember the lessons they learned from their OW about how to "please a woman" and will carry them into our new, improved marriages. Even your hard case of a H. Do you think it's possible?