GM Honestly dealing with MLCers is a bit like dog training LOL. I am dog siting a 7 month old dog who is cute but not very disciplined. I know very little about dog training, and a little more about DBing. The same principles seem to work! Zen and the art of DBing or what?
My xh is the same these days about extraneous information. last time we met he made a point of telling me how much he was earning. WTF??? This is the world's most secretive man. He wasn't boasting either. It is about what I would have guessed.
Now about the 4 way - tough, but the ADs should be starting to kick in (I find with most medication that it seems to kick in before they say it will). It is a negotiation, and there are books about negotiating techniques
I try to go through the situation realistically in my mind, as if I were watching a stage play, and I were one of the actors. (Best NOT done at 2.30 am!!) Go through the scenarios in your mind.
Decide what you want out of the meeting in advance, as a minimum. Imho you cannot sign a document which contains inaccuracies, but if that is what you decide, this can be said by your attorney, pleasantly and firmly.
It isn't a bad idea to have an agenda agreed with your attorney as to the structure of the meeting, and what you want to cover. MLCers can try and drag in all kinds of stuff. They like to win.
Information is currency!!
People who are lying to themselves and anyone else are often very paranoid.
I think you will be fine. Look fabulous!! And you have all these on-line friends rooting for you.
