Am I ready for this?

[ForeverYoung]

I too think you handled the situation well, Mtn. Look at you becoming a DB master!

It seems she was feeling very un-lovable. Certainly she KNOWS you love her, but she needed to hear it. I think it was more about her feeling unloveable, not actually questioning your love for her.

Agreed! Once last year, when my W was discussing how she really didn't care if she died now, she told me she had nobody to "hang around for". I said "I don't know if you've considered this, but I'd miss you." She said "only for a little... then you could get yourself a real W."

Like RH said, your W feels unlovable right now. You just keep loving her from afar... and occasionally up a little closer in your light hearted way. If you pursue a little to hard she'll let you know. It won't be the end of your M, it just means you back off a bit.

And, typical for MLC, she doesn't know how to go about doing it so she flounders around in the land of parties, dress up and alcohol looking for something to make her feel good, b/c her fears are too great to do the right thing!

Hey! My W dressed up and went out for drinks with GF tonight! (Looked hot too, Mtn) I told her she looked good, and then went out and seen GF's new car and talked "cars" with them both for a bit. Told 'em to have fun as they left!