I am trying not to be drawn in and I am getting better again. I have noticed when I stop responding after a couple texts he stops.
Right! It takes two to argue. He'll quickly learn that you refuse to engage when he starts giving you his crap.
I can't believe he is still SO angry. I don't know that he has ever been in an angry stage so long. I really thought he was starting to move along his mlc.
I think when things were better I let down my guard a little and maybe pursued a little. Then anything I do that he considers "the old me" he goes off and says "you haven't changed a bit". Then he goes back to blaming the A on me and everything else bad that has ever happened in his life.
And then you defend yourself and the game is on. Am I right? DON"T ENGAGE WITH HIS RAGE! He'll tire of the game if you refuse to play.
Always remember to reward positive behavior. Thank him when appropriate. Do little things to show him you appreciate something he did or said.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
