Run and hide your crazy

[complicated]

And when they get mean is the time when detachment really does help. The vets know what they are talking about.

I was pretty detached a while back and his mood swings didn't bother me as much. When things seemed to be getting better I let myself off my guard a bit and started showing him more interest, affection etc. Then the revelation about OW I even said we can work through this. Then bam! He gets mean and I'm trying to big time detach again. I just don't know what happened.

I've been at this a lot longer than you and have heard "I'm done" before. In your case I definitely wouldn't listen to him. I feel like you have a while to go with his craziness. In my case, I don't know. I really feel like he was starting to show signs of moving through his mlc but I don't know. I"m definitely no expert and have no idea what to expect next. Maybe it's all part of his mood swings.

I continually work on me because I really do see that I needed to change. I didn't like what I saw when H told stories. Now I know that he has rewritten history; every day of every year wasn't horrible but I do know there is some truth in there. Now will he ever see the changes he needs to make? That's the question. Unfortunately in my case in may not matter. He said he doesn't love me anymore and I don't believe he has really given up OW. Even though the kids don't like her and what she represents, he doesn't seem to care. He said it's time for him to be happy. Funny thing is then he says he hasn't been happy for the last 5 years. Three of them were with her. lol.

Enjoy your time with him at the casino. Those times alone are times when you don't have to walk on eggshells.