mmmmm.... I'm thinking of buying stock in Excedrin
Thank you for your kindness uR. And I don't have the answers to the questions you asked; regarding the kids. You are right that H has been as-is for some time. And there is only 1 more "kid" year left. I rather think the impressions made on them by H are already there, so I don't know that it would benefit them to move for a separation now?
Would it benefit me? I don't know the answer to that either. I don't make much money, so financially no I would not be better off. Emotionally? Perhaps. But then I'd have to balance that against being responsible for shaking up the twins senior year.
For now I'm just keepin on keepin on Not so amazing, I don't think, but thank you. I am not sure I am much different from others here.
Complicated Hello! I don't know that we've "met" before?
Ah yes, H and his boobs lol. (A couple years ago I told him I was worried about _____ who I worked with because she seemed very depressed and possibly even suicidal. H says, "____? That's the skinny blonde, right? Well of course she's depressed, she's got no boobs!") I do think that comment was trumped by the one about the 8 year old killed in the Boston bomb. You know, the one who "should have been in school."
Idk how long the ring was there for sure. 5 days that I know of, but it could have been there as long as a month.
H hasn't actually said he's done. He's said he "thinks" he's done. He kind of hedges his bets so far. I think, to mind read a bit, he reasons that for "family" continuity he may well choose to stay with me. Well, sort of. Between his parents and the casino I guess. Lol, how crazy is that?
But I don't know what to think either, so you are not alone in that.
I am glad you are working on you. I have sort of slacked off a bit. I need to get back at it. $$$$$ - or the lack thereof - has been consuming my mind of late.
Originally Posted By: complicated
That is where I feel like I'm ready to give up but I know if he came to his senses I would be sorry I threw in the towel ya know?
LindaM posted before that she was told by a counselor that when her H came out of the fog he would be a good H for someone. It was up to her to decide if she wanted to be around for that. And I can certainly understand your feeling. That's part of what bothers me so much about ow. H has been cold to me for a very long time. And, by his own words, "not very nice". I had become accustomed to that, because I figured that was just how he was. That, like you said, he just didn't "know" how to do differently.
Oh ho, but then I find the emails.... and it turns out he does know how, just chooses NOT to - with me. And oh my but does that ever hurt.
I think my H has a little of that mentality that "wives/mothers" are a different species, that they don't require the sweetnesses, the small kindnesses, the tlc that other women deserve.
Ay yi yi! I'm getting morose!
H has left for the casino. He delayed leaving for S17A's football 7 on 7. He has been very chatty of late. Back to the detailed gambling explanations (where is that Excedrin??) and talking alot about work etc. Currently he is also complaining of a sore back, so there might be more medical issues ahead.
I am ok today. On an even keel. A little resentful of H, but not hurting ATM, so I'll take it
Cheers
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
