Questions without answers...am I stuck in place?

[albamarie]

I need advise. This is the first time H didn't come home in the morning second day in a row.

Recap: H works nights, he didn't come home yesterday to take and sit all day w EA in surgery, then he went to work, (conveniently it's by her house, and hr from here). Today, he got off of work at 6am and again, for the first time didn't come home a second day.

Now being that it's Sat he doesn't work tonight.

How do I handle this? What do I say when he eventually shows up? He's probably going to say he needed to feed her blah blah?

I am detached and not feeling the anxiety of this, thank thank thank God! To me it feels more dignified on his part to not come home, but he will. Cake eating...not sure of the definition of that, he's not enjoying happy happy times when he is here, I rarely speak to him.

Right now I would prefer he never came home again! That's not anger, it's relief. He will, if I go by what he says, she's a helpless person he needs to play out his journey w, no PA, and he doesn't want to leave me.

I am detaching (doing ok) but how do put a boundary on this act of coming home after the kids and I know where he's been, he didn't hid it, but it's still completely unexceptable to our family.

I feel like a doormat, or a fool just letting him walk in quietly, start chores, and I say nothing, but is that the best route regardless?

I hate this, he says everything sweet about me, our home, our family and after 2yrs, he's still searching, why does he have to search in the gutter?

I lost the court date w dog, paid $60 for him to get caught taking a walk, highlight of my day!