NERO here- don't let me float away anybody

[job]

Nero,
You've been give some excellent advice. You have been spinning and it's now time to put your foot on the floor and stop the spinning.

Dawn has given you some ideas to help you along the way. Many of them are fun things to do and I think you would enjoy them. Time to step outside the box and venture forth into the world of unknown. Nero, you just never know what you may discover about yourself.

[RosaLinda]

I love you Nero. You are a genuinely wonderful, intellugent, kind, deep thinking, caring, funny person. Are you ok? It's almost 9 with no word from you. I'm concerned.

[Takevowsserious]

Hey Nero!

Was it this thread that was locked? Looks like you can post now...

[beatrice]

Nero - Snodderly has pointed out that with everything that is going on with your life, you are spinning.

I am not going to give you advice, just support. You seem to be finding it all overwhelming. No idea why your thread is locked to you - it isn't to me, as you can see, and you can post elsewhere.

Anyway, it seems like teh world and his wife are resting on your shoulders, and you have wall to wall troubles.

Just want to give you a hug, and say it will pass, it really will, and you will be in a better place, and you will get there faster with a little spade work. Just do something YOU want to do, for YOU. OK?

[Takevowsserious]

Hi again...

Sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. I know the feeling!

I'm lucky that my parents are both healthy - but I know when the time comes, most likely I will be the one taking care of everything as you are.

Is it possible to arrange a meeting/phone conference with your sisters to divide up the responsibility with your mother?

Bea is right, do something nice for NERO today. I know, easier said than done. You can do it!

[nero]

hi anyone-

i'm okay-

[job]

Nero,
We all worry about you. You've got such a full plate and w/your mother's health, etc., it is a lot for you to take on by yourself. You need some time for Nero and it would be nice if you could work something out w/your family to help divide some of the responsibilities up so that you can have a much needed break.

I worry about you because the stress is going to catch up w/you and I do not want to see you down and out sick. Please take care of yourself and do something extra special for Nero this weekend.

[RosaLinda]

Hey Nero! How do your mom's teeth fit? My H needs some dental work too, one of his wisdom teeth is broken and needs to be removed by an oral surgeon. He's made an appointment twice, and canceled it twice. He's back to planning to have it pulled out while he's in Moscow. Bright said there are good modern dental clinics where you have to pay, and state ones that are not so good. He wantes to go to the state clinic where you "slip the dentist a couple of bucks and a bottle of vodka" because...get this....it will make a good story to tell people.

Here's the new detached Linda Marie letting it go.... Did you see that Nero, my worries floated away like a pink balloon. No, I didn't see it either

[nero]

okay-

i'm saying your note is making me laugh- the thought of waiting to get to russia for dental work.!!! WTF

REMEMBER that commercial that was on very briefly- of a stocky russian woman in a long baggie black dress coming down a runway and the guy says "swimwear" - then similar woman in same dress coming down and he says "evening wear" - something like that , it was sooo funny & i got taken off the air soon because it was so objectionable to russian people?

i cannot imagine in my wildest dreams anyone alive wanting someone in russia bashing around in my hed. everyone in russia is getting their butts out of there - here or somewhere (my home town is loaded and they are very very many more suddenly to boot) - i mean- WTF????? BIG TIME.

probably give you a bullet to bite on and whisky to numb it- i'm thinking (for petes sake) third world -

like yak roaming on the stepps outside the office window- while someone (in a big baggy black dress) wacks you on head with mallet at intervals to knock you out-

oh boy...

i'm okay- just got a bit overwhelmed thi spast week.

what is it about mother's in tailspins that makes ya "respond".

i DO GET IT ABOUT DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT ALL- besides just TALKING about it. it would just be the stinking fact of the matter tho - sometimes- there is nothing that can be done but suck it up. there is not one thing i want to buy or have at this moment that would help one darn thing. my life is very nice- it's not a feeling that any luxury item would fix or alter.

I can spend a bit of time with people i care about - i'm doing that whenever possible and it's the only thing that "fixes" anything or alters my mood. it's all i can think of that seems to be a boost & improve spirits. that would be all

like this mlc stuff- all the gal, etc. in the world- it gives one a bit of focus- it gives a bit of direction-

DOES IT "FIX" IT OR MAKE IT BETTER??? - NO - AS IN NO it's some stuff to try & it helps - that's all. problem & pain remain til (i guess) time dulls them or removes them.

i get that...

same deal w/ my mother complexes- she's mean- it's a need in her to be so- it will not ever change (that much has been there for 20+ years - it's not the dementia - there are moments of "normal reality" - or niceness - in general tho- SHE NEEDS AN ENEMY to function and to channel the hostility to....

IT IS WHAT IT IS - I Get that notion and it is nothing about her i can fix. that is the truth (probably not even about me, per se, just my "position" in her life.... yeah, yeah, yeah.

this morning it's in a better place in my head-

i'm gonna mosey down the shore - see neices & baby- JUST GOT A CALL from neice in fla and her kids - great to hear those little voices and remember the places in life where one can pour that love - and it's okay .... woo hoo

i am such a "love addict" - I see it, can relate to my mother's "anger addiction" and h's - what? "self addiction?"

oh well- glad it's love for me- not sorry & never will be- we're off to see the wizard -

OH GEEEZ - my mother just called - began slow & worked herself into a tiraid - me sitting here murmering & saying nothing in particular- til she just hung up in a rage because "i just made her angry" !!

oh well- think i'll be at shore for a few days - think h is not coming tue- aunt very probably is dying - congestive heart failure- it's sad - he says i do not need to fly down there ?) feel badly about that, she is to be buried up here tho! not sure what is happenng with her anyway- just life on 'HOLD"HERE b- but with reminder of life bing short & unpredictable here- enjoy today if you can- going to try-

slow mo today- but okay - & yeah - i get it Bea- got the shovel - know the drill- and do continue - slowly & inexorably moving forward - no matter who sees it - i know it -

xxo

[uRworthy]

Nero, are you on FB?