GM, it's a tough one because you obviously care and want to be respectful. He doesn't or isn't capable of that right now. His loss. But something to consider as you move along. Anyone else in the world right now can tell him happy birthday or congratulations or whatever else. He'll hear them out. You're the one person that cannot tell him anything right now.
My ex and I have the same birthday (I'm a year older). I don't forget her birthday, but I don't commemorate it either. She's still learning to deal with boundaries (like a little kid). When this was all still going on before she left, I got her a bland card. Nothing special. While cleaning out the cabinets a while back I found it - unopened. She wasn't able to "hear" anything from me at all. Still can't. But I don't take it personally any longer. It was meant to be, but it's bigger than that. And as she struggles to keep the light on in her world, I'm not going to add to that burden
I think it's best to wish him well, but not say it to him. Seems odd, but it seems to work.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
