One giant leap forward!

[Fartiltre]

T,

This post is properly in another direction than the discussion going on in your thread!

I do get you! In fact I think the two of us are quite alike in thoughts and the way we feel like acting.

I do understand that you feel like answering – I would have felt this too but at the same time it is my opinion that this is the time to back off. I totally agree with Sandi2 on this one.
Do NOT answer anything unless she states a direct question or you have to have info around children or money-stuff.

Sandi told you some days ago to back off for at least two weeks – IMO do exactly that!

Don't appear to make up by kissing up. Step back and give her plenty of time to cool off. At the very least.....two weeks. Trust me, she will begin to break ice after you not getting the kids for two weeks. I know, I know.......somebody will probably jump in here and say something about punitive actions, or not staying away from your kids, etc. This is a necessary step in your stitch, IMO. You need some breathing space and free time. That doesn't make you a bad father. If somebody wants to call it punitive toward her, so be it........that is not the goal here.. It will be the turning point of something better, you wait and see. She really needs to see what it would be like without you as her H. I hope you will think hard about it, and decide to stop playing house/family in order to get it back.

For now, Stay off the places where you are reading stuff she says. Give yourself some time to regroup. Use your time to GAL, and read up on some self-help books.

Stop texting. When things are much, much better, gradually ease back into doing a little.

Do not give her a run down of your day. She is not entitled to know everything.

A lot have happened since the above post but I believe this is still what should be done!

Do NOT respond to her. She is trying to pull you in. It is her way of getting control. She is still looking for a reaction from you. Don't give her one.

I agree!

I would not be surprised to find out that she has not talked seriously to any lawyer. I think this may be coming from her only, to shake T up.

Totally agree!

I am not sure where you find yourself at this time. It seems like you have doubts in what you want and I do understand this. I feel the same way but not as strongly and as often as you do!
GAL, work on you – but do keep the door open!

Give her some time! Wait and see what happens!

F