Yes uR, W has been depressed. But it seems to me she has been coming out of it more and more. Or at least it has been lessening it's grip on her.

I may look into the fb thing at some point. I've never been a member. W only signed up about 6 months ago. At least I don't have to worry about her unfriending me!

Comp: Yes, my W has not been a mean MLC'er. I does make it a little less difficult, I think.

And no, W doesn't appear to have an OM. She often tells me about her times out with co-workers and friends. A couple nights ago at a going away party for an employee who was leaving the company, W's manager told her she looked good, and asked what her secret was. W was clearly tickled, and blushing, even while telling me the story. It seemed she could hardly believe anyone else would find her attractive.

There's no way I'd get stories like this, along with facial expressions and body language that are oh so easy for me to read after 34 years together, if she had an OM.

My goal is to stay as emotionally connected to my W as she will allow, so she doesn't feel the need to have that need met by an OM. Or like Linda said, "You keep warding off those OM, FY!"

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl