Your goal is to be able to say "Another new normal day with H". Getting through a MLC takes time, if you're struggling like mad every day you'll never make it. Figure out how to make this work for you. Everyone is different. Having said that, a bad day (or few) is normal, so don't fret that.
I am off on Fridays and I did some stuff around the house, afterall I'm doing everything myself now that 2 of us used to do, and then I sat out in the pool about an hour and a half.
You just keep yourself busy, one way or another. Hanging out in the pool is great too!
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My h is in an incredibly mean stage right now and I'm not all all convinced that he has given up OW. I think he tried to but I know he has had at least one relapse with her and I wouldn't doubt if he is fully back to her now that we haven't been getting along.
He's mean because he is in immense pain. Even OW has not made him happy.
Do not allow yourself to be drawn into fights with him. Leave the room, hang up the phone, or ignore the texts if you have too. You can't control what he does, but you can control how you respond to it. Keep posting.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
