I would like to hear the opinion of your S trying to shove the D down your throat, as you say.
Just because she wants it like yesterday doesnt mean you have to rush out and help her with it. In some states the will have a couple do a trial separation for six months or so.
If it is not what you want right now, why accommodate her just because she wants to rush into D.
IMHO, take your time and deal with the D at a reasonable pace. Time is your friend right now, so they say. D is not something to rush into especially if both of you are not on the same page.
Once again, just my humble opinion.
VETS, please chime in on this subject. I am curious to hear what your position is on this.
