Call a therapist and try to get a psychiatrist NOW. In most places you wont get in quick so set appointments up now. Also, as you prob already know, it takes 3+ visits for sig change.
Being a MVP client of professional help for most of my life I know that in most cases it is the most efficient way out of the muck your stuck in. You are in the suck and I dont want you to feel overwhelmed and/or hopeless/helpless.
You need to start with a plan and goals that you can control the outcome of 100%. Your daughter is going to need a strong Daddy in every way- Thats how I designed my goals.
In the beginning I walked.....I was the forest gump of walking. I then purchased a bike. I know that if I sit I dwell- If I dwell I go to a ugly place in my mind. So EVERY TIME i was bored or thinking negative I would walk or ride until my head was numb and I started to sing - all alone.
I dont know what you do workwise however I became involved with the chamber of commerce and the United way. I suddenly was surrounded by positive action focused people. Those two organizations always need help. Becoming a member of a boys/ girls club is usually inexpensive and they usually have lots of activities classes. My local high school also does PM classes - Im going to learn the guitar and speak Mandarin
Divorce is horrible and sucky and many other words- Its even worse if you become so emotionally broken that you take years to get back on your feet.A benefit of all this work will be that if /when W and boytoy hit a bumpy patch you will be in a position to choose if you want to pick up the pieces- because you will be so detached you will CHOOSE.
I was where you were....Im doing ALOT better now- You will too. The choices you make now will determine how long it takes you to get there.
Do it for your daughter - She needs a strong Daddy.....no matter what happens
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
