One giant leap forward!

[T1000]

You say you were stuck in the middle between your wife and your family.

Did you ever stick up for her? It is very important for a woman to feel her man has her back, even when it comes to her family.

If that was the case, perhaps someone here can offer a way for you to demonstrate that you are in her side, even if she may feel it is too late it may be something she is still holding on to.

I did stick up for her. When no one else was around we would argue about the issues. She felt that I wasn't standing up for her because I wasn't just taking her side and sod the rest.

There were times when I should have done more to side with her.

I found the whole thing very confusing. My family of 30 years against my Fiancee/Wife.
I read a lot into it online at the time and realized that I should have backed her more and I have told her this.

In recent years I have had her back more. She makes it so hard though. There was an instance in September at my Mom and Dads Ruby Wedding. They didn't want her there and I fought for her to be there.
They agreed and said they wouldn't pretend it was like it was before but they would be perfectly civil (this was 3 months after W left me).
From what I saw they were civil. W thought otherwise and the next day she said she was picked on by my mother.
Straight after my Mom and Dad flew away on vacation for 3 weeks. My W was saying I needed to confront them about it.
I said I would when they got back. She didn't like that at all. Her mother neither so her mother sent my Mom some message via Facebook. It was a right old mess.

I did feel stuck. Do I contact my parents on there 40th wedding anniversary and berate them over the way they were with my W?

I chose to do it when they got back and speak to them about it. I did, they said they were civil but didn't pay my W that much attention. I got no where with any of it.

Even now it frustrates me. Looking back my W actually gave me an ultimatum that if she couldn't go me and her would be over.
^^^^ Just typing that is pretty shocking how much she tries to control me.

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Before I started typing this reply I would've said that yes I needed to side with her more and wondered about ways to show that now.
Now I'm at the end of the reply it makes me think I could never please my W with her entitlement.