Here we go, we have a few differences between us But maybe I can offer some insight, since you help me so much
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Being home with you makes me feel stagnant again like before and if I go to her she will teach me how to be a real estate agent and get me out of this rut in my life.
I know for a fact H is terrified of going back to the person he was. That is one of the main things that stops him from "coming back". In his head, I made him like this and this is the person he is with me and he doesn't want that so he can't be with me. XGF is not the full time parent, has huge amounts of time, eats well, works out and is active and fit. This is life H wants, but can't seem to remember that it is a choice-his choice, but he is not strong enough yet. Neither is your W.
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If you want the honest to God's answer, I want to go to her and see if it works but I want you to stay here in our house in case it doesn't. (oh yeah... you read that right. She actually SAID what we all know they are thinking!)
Ya, not been said out loud, but I get that feeling too in my sitch. The thing is is whether it is good for us or not. I am okay with where I am right now. You? Ya, it's cake eating for sure, but at the end of the day, you decide what youbare good with.
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Life with AP looks and feels like a fresh start and I think I need a fresh start.
See above.
I am in the same sitch. All I can do is let H do what he has to do and so will I. But I tell you, everytime he flips I am able to detach a little further, that tug lessens. I read the same in you, even though you're freaking right now.
