Thanks jp787 It does help to know im not the only one that feels this way.
I just have to say i really was doing very good for awhile. I have givin it up to God and I do know he will restore the marraige at some point.
I have been doing 180's just guess we all have good times and bad times. this is a bad time for me and I am trying to work past it.
One big thing is that I have been doing is building a very good relaionship with her daughter. we are very close now and her daughter tells me her mom just seems like she does not care about her and is just out for herself at this point. I try to tell her im sorry. and try to have her look at it diffrent cause she is her mom. i am realy on good terms with her family and some friends. they all dont like what she did.