I'll answer the last question, as I can't answer the other 2. If she says she wants to come back tomorrow, don't say its not the right time for you yet or open your arms and embrace her. You need to say, we need to talk about this, a lot of time has passed and I've been doing a lot of thinking about us. I still love you but I can't have you coming and going as you have been doing. Stay at your mum's for now and we'll go on a few dates and talk about things - what went wrong in the marriage, etc. You need to get her trust back so that you'll believe she'll be back for good Hope that helps
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
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