Need help applying DR (super long newcomer story)

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In my opinion, and many may not agree, there could be many reasons for the anger.

You are taking away her reasons for leaving. As younegate all her complaints she will get frustrated because it brings her closer to feeling complete selfishness in the decision to break up the family.

Also, she can be angry because you are showing the ability to do the things she wanted you to do all along.

The last explanation is controversially. Some of the hardline folks on here would say that do all the household chores and being willing to do any and all things that are essentially her job, appears weak and not manly.

This is not the general perspective of must on here, which is why I say it is controversial. But many would say she is looking for you to show strength and leadership and manliness, not weakness and doormat actions. Not suggesting you are weak,.just sayinf that in the twisted mind a WAW, it COULD.be viewed as weak.

My opinion is that the WAW makes up a bunch of reasons why she is not happy with you, and focusing on those things doesnt help you become a more attractive husband.

Ever heard of a womam who is madly in love with her husband leave him because he doesnt do the dishes? Im not an expert, but my own sitch and my own readings have led me to comclude there is more to it than what our WAW says. and focusing on those details instead of the bigger picture of creating fun times, emotional intimacy, attraction, bonding etc can leave you wondering why nothing is changing.

If you have strong emotional intimacy and.a sense if closeness, you would not be required to do all the household chores....

Another way to think if it is uf the roles where reversed and you were the one wanting to leave, would the sight if youe wife mowinf the yard or taking out the trash (or any chore that is usually assigned to the husband) make you change your mind? Or would you perhaps think 'look how needy she is, she is even mowing to try to change my mind'.

She may even feel you are so oblivious to what she reallt needs, to where you think mopping the kitchen is wham she needs, even if that is what she suggested she needs. in,our wives mind, a good husband KNOWS what a woman needs.