Blindsided

[Demoted26]

Don't worry about the scale number, in fact, stay off the scale! The blouse fitting & your noticing the difference in your waist are proof that what you are doing is working!! H may not say he notices, but he does!! Congrats on the progress with your physical improvements. Not ever easy, but especially rewarding now.

I wonder if your H LL is physical touch? Maybe small touches that can be done casually would help with the "feeling connected"? Just brushing past him in the hallway, touching his arm as you pass or reach for something & he's near by. Just VERY casual, low pressure touching.
I know my H LL is physical touch & I am Acts of Service (sounds like you may be as well). So, me mowing the lawn or cooking H dinner didn't do much to make him feel loved- but I THOUGHT that's what I was doing.

Last night H arrived home a day early for the weekend. H texted me he was almost home & was hungry. I had just eaten, but offered to make him
something (& went out of my way to do it). To me, that was an act of love...He appreciated it, but told me I should have just told him to hit up a fast food place.
What lit up his eyes was when our Great Dane jumped up to "hug" him & scratched his neck with her paw, on accident. He showed me the spot that was red & I said, " Yep, she got ya! I'll kiss it & make it better"....so, I just leaned in & kissed his neck.
He gave me a look, and I wasn't sure what it was, so I just laughed a little & walked away casually.
H sure took notice of me later & was very open, friendly the rest of the evening.

As for snooping on the phone... Guilty. I can't see WHO H is texting, but I'm talking 6000 a month!! I text mostly with H, so I know 2500 (average) are to me. I make myself crazy thinking about the other amount. Does knowing help? Kind of, but not really...
I am really making the effort to STOP checking.