Blindsided

[chl0901]

My H said something during the BD last month that I've been thinking about a lot. He said, "You're only happy with S." I do not think that is true, but that is obviously how he perceives it to be. I've been trying to be extra pleasant around H since then, but I don't know how to show him I'm "happy" with him too, just in a different way. With S, who is a toddler, we play together on the floor and laugh and are silly. On the other hand, my H has a much more serious personality and is pretty quiet most of the time. He's always been like that though. I try to show him love and appreciation with little things, such as a text here and there, making him coffee in the AMs, steaming his clothes for work sometimes, and every once in awhile getting him a card and writing a nice note to him. I've always tried to do little things like that our whole relationship though. Since the BD, I've laid off of the texts and cards, but still make him coffee in the AM and steam his work clothes every couple of days. I'm not sure what else I should do at this point to show him he's appreciated and I am happy with him without coming off as pursuing or pressuring him. I am worried that backing off like I have been will just drive a bigger space in-between us. I get that if I come on too strong (like I tried a couple of weeks ago), that will push him away, but I'm also scared that me backing off so much will also push him away further. Any happy medium or ideas?