I don't want my marriage to fail. I want my kids to not have come from a broken home. We have been happy before and know we could be happy again. Unfortunately that would take a lot of work on her side.[/b]
It would take a lot of work on both sides, or do you think it's all her fault?
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A bit, I state what I will and won't accept. If that is not met i take myself away from it.
That's pretty much it, great! Does setting boundaries seem effective in protecting you?
[quote]I was thinking the other day. If I was dating someone else now how would I treat my W? I certainly couldn't let her take advantage of me the way she has done. That's sort of my yard stick at the moment in regards to W right now. Could I justify the way I am acting if there was someone else in my life.
I don't understand what dating someone else has to do with how you respond to your W? Can you explain that more?
Like I said in a previous post, your W's past doesn't give her a free pass to act however she wants and your past doesn't give you a free pass to act however you want. She may in fact take advantage of you but there are 2 people involved in that interaction and if you're truly setting boundaries, then she can't take advantage of you, no one can take advantage of you.
Get out of victim mode, be in control or your life.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
