Hi comp. This is really hurtful stuff you're being forced to deal with, isn't it?

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I was there by myself and she (mc) told me that H had done a lot of thinking and he is done.


No one knows if H is done, not even him.

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Really giving H the space he has asked for. Barely talked to him in the last 2 weeks and when I do (because of the kids or something) he is usually still really bitter. I don't think he has been this angry for this long in quite a while.


You're doing the right thing right now by staying out of his way. Realize that if he has given up OW, he is going through withdrawal, and will be for a while. Even if he hasn't totally given her up, his anger would seem to point to the fact that he realizes she is not his magic ticket to his happiness after all.

Stay on your path and take care of yourself. You WILL get through this, and if H is still there at the end of his search for answers, WILL have a better M.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl